hi. i have read this post and your other post about meeting guys in the nt and i have often thought of messaging you but im a married guy so that rules me out which brings me to why im sending this response.

i do feel for you being single as was in that boat for many years untill i met my wife so i understant how you feel and your frustration. Looking over your profile i feel that you may be trying to hard in finding that special guy.

It seems to me and i could be wrong that you have a vision of the perfect guy in all departments and are looking for him but im afraid that he doesnt exsist in that form. he does exsit so dont give up the search like i almost did. He exsists but in ways that you might think.

i had an idea of what i wanted in a wife both in looks and in personality and i discovered that when i met my wife that it didnt matter about all that it just mattered that we mattered. that we had that special bond. the kind of bond that you cant write down as criteria or list in a what im looking for section in a profile. its something that just happens and when you least expect it too.

so my advice is work out what you love doing the most in life like a hobby or lifestlye choice and look for someone that has that same interest. for me its my nudist lifestyle. i love being naked but the previuos relationship i was in ended when they found this out so i stopped hiding that and was upfront from the word go and you know what i found my wife.

now we both love the lifestyle and have that as our common bond and that to me is what makes for a sucessful relationship.

hope that something from all this can help you out. you do seem like a top girl that one day will make a guy proud. just a pitty that your not bi as we are looking for a girl like yourself to be part of our lives.

seeya andrew

Frack_ME.

Was reading your profile and its just a little full on. I read it and thought dam, am i going for a job interview.

Its nice to know what you want and to go for it, but try wording a little differant.

just the way i see it.

For your point of view. However... I think you're being a bit niave regarding the other guys on this site... You may be polite... But a lot are not. I tried a nice fluffy profile a while ago... All it got me was arseholes and weirdos coming out of the woodwork.... All sorts of rude and offensive messages that as a lady... I'm not interested in. Sexy talk I'd fun... But blatent smut is not fun. So I guess by being so strict about what I'm after... I weed out the dumbnuts and nasties.

I ve seen how guys act on this site and others in chat as well as the club/pubs. If i was a woman i would be very picky too. Little niave in hoping that guys would have a better up bringing towards woman. Not just wanting to stick a cock in them or try to chat them up with ur "pritty, lets fuck" or " i want to do bad things to you". Guys these days lack romance. i get this is a dating site and you got to shovel the shit around before you find a rose.

I re-read my profile, thinking maybe I was being a bit harsh...but I'm not.... so I think I'll keep it a while longer and see what happenes....

You must be confused Bear_26. This is in fact NOT a dating site, it is a sex site with the emphasis on broadening sexual horizons with people who are of the same mindset as yourself both (location-ally) close to you or farther away.

If you want a dating site i would recommend maybe match.com

Frack_me. Its hard to say with your profile. I do agree a little with Bear_26, it is a bit much. I love that you are letting all guys know exactly what your after, but in saying that, most men might also feel a little put-off thinking they dont measure up to some of those qualities. Im of the firm belief that if it were me looking at that list, i would feel that any surprises or little personality quirks that you may have as an individual are already revealed, like an already opened present!
Im also of the belief that since this is a SEX site, not a dating site that the list of what you are "Looking for" doesnt really gel with the message this site promotes.

If this were a Dating site, with the intention of finding true love (if such things exist) which may lead to marriage/family etc i would say your profile is top notch!
For a sex site maybe not exactly copacetic.

Most men on this site, will have not just this site in their "bookmark" listing but about probably 3+ other sites as well. At a guess i would say the majority of men on RHP are looking not for love but sex, very plain, very simple and a very basic desire. For most men who are past the puppy dog/attachment/"pat me and ill love you forever" phase, love comes with time and understanding, having sex does not constitute love (or love making) in most men's eyes. So in saying that, men (boys for the most part) a lot of the time may come across as smutty and vulgar in their messages because they truly do not care about the person they are sending the message to. All they are thinking about is the quickest, most hassle free way to lift your skirt.

Frack_me, you state very plainly that you are a lady, if this is true, than what are you doing "in the lions den". Most of us, men and women alike are looking for more, far more. Romantic (emphasis on romance) meetings/dates are a little tame for most of us.

You could take the notion that romance is dead, i dont believe that at all. Romance is very much alive, i just think you may be barking up the wrong tree, using both romance and this site together.

As a bit of advice that was given to me by a much wiser person than myself, "dont go looking for love, love will find you".

So the fact that you put your mouse over the redhotpie logo is comes up "" Adult Dating"" or google search well what do you know comes up again. or serch options, social or intermit meets or my fav that when you get to the home page on the bottom ""RedHotPie is a premier internet dating site ""

Are you sure your not a little confused yourself ?

:D

Todays opening statment for dating is brought to you by Wikipedia. lol

But serious, lets just enjoy the site for just what is without trying to lable it to death.

is open to both personal and public interpretation.

It is a bit of both, more of one than the other to some and none of one to others.

I just happen to be looking for a bloke that enojoys sex as much as I do...

I've tried "dating" sites, and the men blow more smoke up a girls arse than the American Indian's smoked peace pipes....mosre blokes from those sites ask for sex on the first date than any others.

I went on a date today... with a nice guy...so sex might have been something we both thought about, but will still went out socially and enjoyed each other's company. He was charming and nice and brought the popcorn. We sat in the dark theatre, watched a great flick and felt the sexual tension build. Maybe thats all I want right now... but I sure as hell am not gonna proclude meeting a nice guy who I click with from this website as someone I want to spend more intimate times with, just because it's not a traditional dating site... thats a bit judgemental...don't you think?

I wasnt saying you should preclude anything. Im glad you met someone and had fun and that he broke the mold so to speak. But as I stated in previous posts the underlying or ulterior motive behind the majority of people on this site is predominately sexual and that traditional forms of dating/courtship is overlooked.
People who feel beleaguered by this site because they were not in the right frame of mind before joining and putting their hard earned cash into their profiles, have to understand that people who are in the right frame of mind can come on very strongly. People will come across as assholes and jerks it is an unfortunate side effect to this site.
I know I'm a soft touch when it comes to meeting people and i just go with the flow, but there are many people here that dont take that road and go the "Right here, right now" philosophy.

Frack_me; you could say judgmental. I would prefer the term "cynical and realistic". People have ulterior motives usually driven my selfish actions/thoughts and that is human nature.

Also if all your looking for is a "Bloke who enjoys sex as much as you do", they're a dime a dozen in the NT. Unfortunately your profile doesnt state that, it states a whole bunch of other stuff which might turn some guys off.

the reason I don't pay to use this site.... or any others....

Boytoy... my profile is perfectly clear in terms of what I wants... and I think it's quite clear in stating that I'm after a bloke who can keep up with me....and what I expect... it's a list of the attributes I admire in a bloke... doesn't have to be all of them...maybe just some.... just like you guys won't come near a chick who doesn't fit your physical idea....and do not lie to yourself thinking that you don't have a type.... everyone has a type that they are attracted to.

The real fact is that seeking perfection, or our perfect match, is a fantasy in itself... but we delude ourselves into thinking that we can find that perfect person... I'm not perfect, but I'm looking for someone that fit's me perfectly, compliments my good, accepts my bad and forgives me my imperfections... my perchant for good food, sleeping in and action movies non-withstanding. That can happen with a random shag, a friend with benefits or someone who wants to be more to that with me...

And what is wrong with having a preference for men who smell good, are well mannered and know how to treat a girl... in and out of the bedroom... that opinion in itself is very judgemental... call a spade a spade; all you have done is pass judgement...dress it up anyway you want to...but, as a teacher, I know what the difference is.

All this thread was about was asking guys their opinions about what attracts a guy to a girl on line....not about me personally and my profile... I take critical feedback but not unwarrented judgement on who I am and who and what I want to invite into my life.

Quoted from Wikipedia: Males tend to place significantly higher value on physical appearance in a partner than women do. Women, on average, tend to be attracted to men who are slightly taller and who have a relatively narrow waist and broad shoulders. Men, overall, tend to be attracted by women who are slightly shorter, have a youthful appearance and exhibit features such as a symmetrical face, full breasts, full lips, and a low waist-hip ratio.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness

So in response to online attraction:
As you dont know the person behind the profile all you have going for you is what you look like, so what attracts a man to a women online, purely and simply is how good looking they are.

mmmmmmmmmm...Days of our lives...all we can say "one man's meat is another man's poison"